One of Benjamin's best known works, at least in the transgender community, is The Transsexual Phenomenon, which was first published in 1966. By the way, you can always find a link to The Transsexual Phenomenon on the right side of the T-Central home page, under the Articles section.
A sexually frustrated international drug dealer is arguably more dangerous than a sexually satisfied international drug dealer—so you may be doing society a service. My boyfriend would probs be in an open relationship, but I'm not interested for no reason in particular.
Speaking with a low-information voter is frustrating because they can't tell you why they voted for someone; speaking with a low-information fucker—someone who can't tell you why they're doing/screwing what they're doing/screwing—is just as frustrating.
A contributing factor is that women often have a hard time advocating for their own pleasure because they've been socialized to defer to men.
There's evidence of that in your question: You want to navigate this problem—the problem being a selfish boyfriend who doesn't care enough about you to prioritize your pleasure and has taken cover behind the orgasm gap—but you want to spare his ego in the process. Tell him what you want and show him what it takes to get you off.
We don't need to fix them we need to fix society which is something Benjamin repeated several times in his landmark book. She, like myself, has been on a life-long quest to discover why she is the way she is.