The typical advice about interracial dating says to “just ignore it.” In reality, it won’t be so easy.You might have to adjust your relationship to avoid the discomfort and general displeasure of society.
A fetish is purely sexual and the person will be attracted to ALL people of that race/appearance regardless of the person.
By comparison, attraction is often just the spark which initiates a romance. If they don’t think your interracial relationship is based on a fetish, they might think it is a status thing, or a “come up.”This is most seen in interracial relationships with white women and black men.
If you try to ignore all of these differences and say that “race doesn’t matter”, then you are setting yourself up for a big shock.
However, if you can embrace these differences, then your romance can flourish. Fetish assumes that you are turned on by certain characteristics or things, such as people with a fetish for pantyhose or scat or whatever. It is a bit difficult to define the difference between a fetish and attraction.
You might even learn something too by stepping outside your cultural norms. We can’t help it if we have a preference for one type of look, such as one guy being attracted to skinny women with blond hair whereas another prefers curvy women with darker tones.