Lust and attraction are often more deep-seated, primal, and uncontrolled feelings.
Usually, it is impossible to "choose" to be turned on or attracted to a partner.
These feelings are more likely elicited automatically from certain cues in a partner.
For women, those attractive male cues may include physical attractiveness, social status, economic resources, ambition, industriousness, stability, and intelligence (Buss, 2003).
Another woman might lust after one man, be attracted to a second, and feel comfortable and attached to her partner only.
These differences in who we lust after, are attracted to, and feel an attachment towards, arise because each feeling has an independent origin.
Attachment, however, can often be more of a conscious choice.