This part of the Native American dating custom is usually done with a special flute called a Courting flute.
The young man will play his flute until the woman he wants comes out to see him.
If work or extended travel takes your family to China, it is important to have a working knowledge of Chinese customs and how these customs differ from American customs.
This is especially important if you have teenage kids, because Chinese dating and marriage customs can be very different from those in the U. American teenagers are used to a dating culture where neither partner usually considers marriage until both partners are much older.
After the mothers have been spoken to the young man is told he is allowed to come to the lodge.