It’s been proven that everyone lies on their online dating profiles. In his recent book Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari recalls interviewing hundreds of young people involved in online dating.It’s also been demonstrated that people have a harder time gauging sincerity when layers of communication like facial expression and body language are removed. He describes talking to one girl, for whom “the process [of online dating] had morphed from something fun and exciting into a new source of stress and dread.” While online dating can be awesome fun if you’re in the right mood, it can also become a source of stress if you’re in a negative mood.You won’t achieve the kind of relationship that reduces loneliness in an hour or two of online dating. Gone are the days of striking up a conversation with a stranger at the bank, and for most people, that’s just fine.
Having said that, to suggest that online dating is the 'solution' to a lonely heart implies that online dating is a fail-safe, fast-track route to finding ‘The One’.
Likewise, the term 'lonely hearts' makes logging on to find love sound as though it’s the equivalent of signing up to an AA meeting for singles - 'Alone and Anonymous'.
The good news is that finding love is definitely the only path out of loneliness.
Instead of dating-when-lonely, try reconnecting with a friend or investing some time in yourself.
With technology weaved into the fabric of our day to day lives, online dating is no longer an exclusive realm for oddballs and is now viewed as a legitimate, if not natural, a place as any to look for love.