After this period of passionate romance, your attachment to each other morphs into what experts call “companionable love”— a different type of love that’s not as obsessive, but can be even more beneficial to other areas of your life, like your career, says Campbell.
If you’re already engaged, Campbell suggests getting premarital counseling with a licensed professional, preferably a Ph.
D., whose expertise is helping couples talk through issues like these.
“You never know—you could end up marrying someone you sleep with the first time you meet! A better approach: Be in the moment with that person, but it’s also important that both partners feel comfortable—if you’re with a considerate partner they should be wiling to wait.
However, if you know you tend to get attached quickly, be careful of scheduling an adult sleepover too soon.
“Establish your personal philosophy on how much you want to share, and if you’d rather keep certain things private, your partner should respect that, if they respect you,” says Campbell.