Be unavailable dating
“When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” ~Maya Angelou After having been a rebound girl the summer of 2013, I swore I would never get involved with another emotionally unavailable man who had baggage and was a poor communicator.
I thought I was a pro at all of the tell tale signs. He came on very strong in the beginning, telling me he deleted his dating app after our first date, that he turned down other dates because he didn’t want to waste time with other girls, and showed me in more ways than one that I was his priority. Things were at the height of our relationship, and I use this word loosely because it really wasn’t a relationship.
After a heavy night of drinking he confessed that he was scared to get into another relationship because he associates them with pain and feeling trapped. It dawned on me that he probably had one foot out the door the entire time.
He admitted that he puts up walls, shuts down, and he just couldn’t bear to go through another break-up again. Why did I, yet again, get ahead of myself and trust someone that I barely knew?
Each time I pick up the pieces of my broken heart I learn a little bit more about who I am, what I deserve, and what I am capable of giving someone.