Dating a guy with roommates


“The people that are part of my life presuppose dignity and respect as foundational in every one of their relationships.I'd never really seen somebody groped or harassed,” he says.A divorced man calls every woman he's ever had romantic or sexual contact with to ask whether he's ever crossed a line.

It [took] me out of that bubble, exposed how raw and horrifying it was.”The Me Too dialogue encouraged Boscaljon to review his own sexual history and reach out to everyone he’d been with in the past.

“I did an exhaustive list of everybody that I'd ever had romantic or sexual contact with,” he says.

But “it’s impossible not to feel the reverberations in one's personal relationship, especially if one is in a personal relationship with a man.”The current cultural spotlight on these issues has also caused Adigweme to “re-contextualize” behavior that she might have brushed off previously, both in and out of her relationship.

“I have had varying types of negative experiences with men who’ve decided they deserved access to my body,” she says.

“It's a problem that goes way deeper than dating, or gender, or power dynamics,” he says.