Oklahoma courts will consider your children's wishes when determining custody, provided they're old enough to voice a mature preference.Assuming that all other things are equal – both you and your spouse adequately meet the state's best interests standards – your kids' opinions can act as a tiebreaker.
Dating during divorce is not uncommon, but might not be in your best interests, according to Kevin C.
Gage, an attorney in his article, “Dating During Divorce.” Dating when you have minor children can harm your legal case and cost you more that you can imagine.
Your spouse can even amend her divorce papers to charge you with adultery as grounds.
This doesn't usually affect custody by itself unless you've exposed the children to your new relationships and they were adversely affected by it, but combined with other best interests factors, it could mean you lose custody.
If they're old enough to know you're dating and understand what it means and if it upsets them, they might tell the judge they don't want to live with you.