New York psychiatrist Gail Saltz says, “There is no one-size-fits-all answer, because people get married and divorced for many different reasons.” Saltz thinks that it is unwise to generalize people by the number of relationships they had before they met you. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding any mental health symptom or medical condition.
But she does think it’s important to find out how those relationships ended, what changes the person may have made, and most importantly, how the person gets along with their exes now. Never disregard professional psychological or medical advice nor delay in seeking professional advice or treatment because of something you have read on Good
Immaturity, infidelity, addiction, and abuse are just some of the weeds that can kill a growing relationship.
Also, she believes that multiple failed relationships may indicate difficulty to commit, emotional problems, or other unresolved issues.
These are all things that should be carefully weighed before someone decides to pursue a deeper level of commitment.
Parker also says to watch out for people who continually put the blame for previous relationships on their exes. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below.
But don’t rule everyone out based on the number of exes in their past. Good is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, medical treatment, or therapy.
I’m currently speaking with a guy from Yahoo personals, he’s 42 and still single, never been engaged… We have been talking for the past month and a half via the phone, I’m in Minneapolis, and he’s in Chicago. I just told him that it’s wild we have great chemistry but we could meet in person and realize that we are not physically each other’s type.