Giddiness doesn’t read as enthusiasm on a first date—it reads as anxiety, according to psychologist Tracy Thomas, Ph. “You end up sending the message that you’re uncomfortable with yourself, and unable to self-regulate,” Thomas explains.
Talking about money is tacky—whether you’re gloating about your bloated bank account, or lamenting how little you have.
“Although money is often on people’s minds, it makes her uncomfortable to hear you talk about it when you’re just getting to know each other,” Dr. “She doesn’t want to hear that you’re worried about it, or to hear you bragging about how much you have.” Avoid the pitfall: “Just cross money off the topic list completely and casually pay for the date like a gentleman,” Dr. Arrogance is really just your insecurity showing, Dr. You may feel like you need to emphasize the parts of your background that scream “elite” to impress her.
Women today don’t need over-the-top chivalry, but that doesn’t mean you should slack on your manners.
Letting the door slam in her face, talking down to waiters, and spending the entire date glued to your phone are all behaviors that she won’t find attractive.
Find out why it’s important to her.” Getting drunk on a first date doubles your chances of looking like a fool—and raises a major red flag, Dr. She won’t know if you just guzzled your whiskey to ease your first-date jitters or if you hit the bottle too hard every night.