Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.This was a little strange to me because I wasn’t sure what to do if I was really into someone.
Something fellow GP writer, Grace Buchele Mineta mentioned in her podcast interview.
In Japan, women can confess their love so it’s not strange if we ask a man out but in America, it seems that women tend to wait for men to ask them out.
I don’t like having to wonder if my date is interested in being in a relationship with me, and dating isn’t very fun because of the games involved in the process.
On the other hand I like that American men are more chivalrous than Japanese men and will do things like pay for dates and hold the door open for me. Has your dating experience in Japan been different than in your home country?
Anyways, these are the things that I have learned from dating men in America and these are very uniquely different experiences. Quite frankly I don’t think either of them is very effective.