But the training to be emotionally dishonest begins at an early age.
Parents and teachers frequently encourage or even demand that children speak or act in ways which are inconsistent with the child's true feelings.
If these adults feel threatened they are likely to defend themselves by Through all of this the child and adolescent learns they can't be honest with their feelings.
They gradually stop being emotionally honest with their parents, their teachers, their friends and even themselves.
Emotional intelligence may also give us the ability to decide when it is in our best interest to be emotionally honest by sharing our real feelings.