It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.Depends on your social circle, and more specifically, on how reasonable and mature they are.
Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
3) You are behaving badly, not talking to your friend because she is dating your ex. She is playing by the rules and you are being a sore loser.