Here is a big question for you: Are you willing to change your way of life, and grow in every aspect you need to grow to make him/her happy?
This would mean accepting him/her as who she/he really is, (don’t trust too much on the external image, you need to find out who this person really is in the inside) and then, accepting his/her family the way they are, and realizing that a marriage commitment to your loved one requires that you will have to leave behind certain things that you may not want to leave. and I’ve seen people sacrificing careers, wealth, and some family relationships for the sake of their marriage.
Yes, you are the seed, and sowing your seed means actually dying to your own pretty dreams of happiness and satisfaction.
I know, I am to tough, but, a solid marriage starts with a good, sound concept of love and sacrifice, and a relationship with God.
Wanting to honor God in your dating relationships is such a beautiful desire!