Pick activities that are likely to appeal to women in your age range.
Things like bowling, gardening clubs, reading groups, and hiking groups are all great places to meet older women.
If you are shy, don’t have your friends “set you up,” rather, have them invite you over for dinner, to a movie or some other social activity you might enjoy with one or two single friends. If you're older and looking for a partner, it may feel like you're under a deadline to find "the one." Be careful not to come off as sounding desperate or needy as that will either scare women away or attract those who wish to take advantage of you.
Believe that you are worthy and love will come to you. You have to take the next steps and put yourself out there.
“All the good sex toy shops have extensive information on their sites,” she says.
These can be a great way to get a little insight onto the world you’ve just entered. In fact, it’s more than OK, it’s a good thing that you want to be sexual, to explore your sexuality, to feel sexy and flirt and turn people on,” she says.
When you’re newly out, don’t berate yourself for wanting to make out (and more! Cage notes that most lesbians internalize the good girl vs.