Every man masturbates in his own way, says Martha Cornog, the author of The Big Book of Masturbation, whether he "uses his hands, rubs against something, uses a sex toy or household object, wears special clothing, fantasizes, looks at a book or magazine, tries different positions, or looks in a mirror." Unlike sex with a partner, masturbation can't give you a sexually transmitted disease.
Nor will it subject you to the muscle strains, pokes in the eye, and awkward moments that can come with partner sex. "Masturbation is just about the safest sex there is," says Cornog.
Of course, some men become so obsessed with solo sex that they begin to lose interest in having sex with their partner.
The resulting hurt feelings and alienation a partner feels can make it hard to sustain the relationship.
By David Freeman Web MD Feature Reviewed by Charles E.