I knew deep down that they weren’t right for me and that it would never work, but it completely broke my heart to know that they were dating someone new.
It’s like I didn’t really want them, but I also didn’t want them to be with anyone else. I didn’t think so…It hurts even more when your ex starts dating someone that you know you’re better than, smarter than, prettier than, more educated than, etc.
If they came across a photo of their boyfriend and I together and asked him who I was… I was the ex and they were the girls that I could never be, the ones that even though I knew deep down I shouldn’t compare myself to, I couldn’t help but do so because, well, he chose her and she was now with him.
And NO, I’m not saying that some people are better than others.
We are all equal, but when you’re coming from such an emotionally raw, vulnerable state (and you don’t have any boundaries or self love to tap into and depend upon), when your ex starts dating someone that’s everything you aren’t or everything that he repeatedly said he .
Oftentimes, it becomes more about your ego, “winning” and playing detective than it is looking at reality.
And the reality is – he won’t change and is the exact same.
This is why after a breakup, your ex will sometimes act in extreme ways as far as life decisions and dating go.