No one wants to waste time on someone who isn't interested in them, and you'd think that people you're talking to on a dating app or site are eager to meet and go on a date, but it's not always the case even though they're the same site as you are.It seems like with the growing popularity of dating apps and sites, people's behavior toward potential matches/partners/hookups has only gotten stranger. The idea that you could magically disappear on someone without ever having to deal with the repercussions of your actions was relatively unheard of before we started looking for people on our smartphones. But even more confusing than your average ghost is the virtual pen pal.
You think that would fly back in the day when most people lived in small communities where everyone knew each other's business? Ghosts would have been taken by a village mob, calling for a witch trial. You may have encountered them out in the wild: You seem to hit it off, you're talking pretty consistently, and the next logical step would be to plan a date.
And yet, that never seems to be addressed, no matter how many hints you drop or plans you've tried to make. People are on dating sites for all sorts of reasons, one being that they're just looking for someone to talk to.
This is not always the case, but I've learned to be very cautious with someone who gets very serious very soon.
If a person is already telling you their deepest, darkest secrets and you've only been chatting for a week, you guys either have some serious chemistry, or they're looking for a stranger to confide in.
That's usually the way I let someone know I'm seriously considering meeting them (or else, why bother? But if you're finding that even texting them doesn't yield any discussions about meeting up, they've pen pal-zoned you. Yes, he was in law school, but I'm a firm believer that if someone wants to see you, they'll make time for you.