Moral of the story is that I’ve gone out with hundreds of women since I started dating online in 1997.
And I’ll be the first to tell you – it doesn’t happen very often. (The current girlfriend is a “real life” person, alas).
I’m not saying it’s a good thing, but it’s not a crime. I primarily joined Match just so I could write to one particular guy who sounded amazing…
Plenty of nice men are dazzled with the array of beauty on dating sites and feel that they should just keep shopping. Your original question is whether a man with profiles on multiple sites is necessarily a player. unfortunately, he never wrote back, but I’ve met some other potential guys as well.
It doesn’t matter if they are attractive or not, it doesn’t matter what kind of persona they may have.
They are now the person many aspire to be and who many also aspire to be with.
Sadly, unlike fourteen-year-olds, when it comes to dating, time is slightly more of the essence the older one gets, and unless you're looking to spend two years of your life on a guy who's idea of commitment is adding you as a Facebook friend, sometimes it is useful to sift the chaff from the grain - or the players from the keepers, before your collecting your free bus pass.