We rely on each other also for emotional support with things that are going in both of our lives.
It's great to have five partners but if none of them really feel like they're supported by you, you're not an effective partner.
My husband and I both had a lot of codependent issues to work through early on.
" We don't have to "let" each other do things; it's not our job to parent our partners, or keep them in line, or punish or reward them.
We don't want to be policing each other, that's not the kind of relationship we want. The most common question I get asked is whether I get jealous. It's an emotion, just like sadness, loneliness, anger, excitement, and joy. You work through jealous feelings just like you work through the rest of your feelings.
Their relationship has been almost entirely open, albeit with differing rules and structures as they've figured out the type of setup that works for them. One day we were filling out a sexuality survey in a magazine and one of the questions was "How do you feel about monogamy?