When you want something, and you can't express that desire, then you become dependent on the woman to somehow meet that desire for you.
So you have put all the power in the woman to meet your need, and she doesn't even know it.
Imagine being with a woman who can't wait to see you again because she wants more wild, kinky rip-up-the-sheets sex with YOU. Come on, face it, you have "desires" regarding your woman. A glaring sign of nice-guy-itis is the belief that a desire is "wrong" or "bad".
And it doesn't matter what the desire is, it's the belief that the desire is wrong.
After about 9 years of hands on experimentation in my 'Love Lab'...