Homemakers fear being self-supporting or single moms, and breadwinners dread paying support and seeing their assets divided.Often spouses fear feeling shamed of leaving a “failed” marriage.For spouses married a number of years, their identity and may be as a “husband” or “wife” – a “provider” or “homemaker.” The loneliness experienced upon divorce is tinged with feeling lost. This also may be significant for a noncustodial parent, for whom parenting is a major source of self-esteem. They left home or their college roommate for a marriage or romantic partner.
Some even worry their spouse may harm him or herself.
Emotionally or physically battered women may stay out of fear of and confidence has eroded in the relationship, and the threat of abuse increases close to separations.
Money binds couples, too, especially in a bad economy.
Yet, couples with more means may cling to a comfortable lifestyle, while their marriage dissembles into a business arrangement.
Most people tell themselves, “The grass isn’t any greener,” believe they’re too old to find love again and imagine nightmarish online dating scenarios.