Instead, you’re focusing on how YOU feel about it and that YOU don’t like it. You can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture…
and maybe learn something valuable about your guy in the process (maybe some need that he still needs met).
The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…
and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.
But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.
And now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… People do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane.