Lots of marriages do go through periods of no sex for any number of reasons but it’s different when frequency of sex is an issue right from the beginning.Nancy is another one of my guests whose husband was not interested in sex – she said he’d rather mow the grass.You could be the seemingly perfect couple to the outside world and things could be very wrong with your marriage.
We did not have sex before we were married, because we were good little Christian kids and that’s bad and blah blah blah. ”I remember being on my knees, begging him, saying.“This is abusive. You’re supposed to honor and cherish your wife, that’s what you promised.
Although we had both had sex with other people, we just decided at that point, we were going to keep it good, so I didn’t know there was anything. You’re not doing this.”I would be sobbing and he would close his eyes and put his arm over his eyes and fall asleep while I was talking.
It hurts, it sucks, I hate it…but it’s part of being alive. I know it hurts, because I’ve felt the stinging pain of rejection and the lonely ache of abandonment.
Some of us feel like alone and like nobody cares most of the time – and this is partly what depression feels like (depending on the cause of the depressed feelings). You’re not stuffing your feelings down or hiding behind walls. I can’t change how you feel – nobody can – but I will give you seven things to remember when you feel deeply lonely and alone.“My husband passed away five months ago and we have three kids,” says Christie on How to Adjust to Being Alone.
The feeling that something is missing and nobody cares is a simply part of being a healthy human being.