However, since the problem being discussed includes the fact that the profile is receiving a large number of views, I’m going to assume the photos are good.
First things first, if you’re a man with a profile that is actively viewed but you’re not receiving contacts: this is not unheard of. It has recently been argued that sites like Facebook are so popular, in part, because they allow us to maintain our personalities online.
These two profiles could convey the same information but in two very different ways.
I’m really guessing here based on my experience and talking with other singles dating online.
However, there are some solid statistics that reveal something about whose being contacted…
Men new to online dating often see no contact as some kind of failure but it’s key to remember that just because we’ve added the word “online” in front of dating doesn’t mean all the rules have changed.
Send a few emails and get the ball rolling yourself! My advice for women is a little more in-depth but for guys it’s simple: if you’re getting a lot of views, you should be contacting those viewing you.
However, being attractive with the wrong attitude in your profile can actually drive contact from men away. Men are often internalizing their chances of actually getting a woman to date them (although not always consciously).